Sponsorship is using your position and influence to help someone get ahead. It's similar in many ways to mentorship, the topic of my last post. But sponsorship is a bit tricker. Most people understand mentorship and have good feelings about it. Sponsorship is a bit less familiar and might even feel a bit unseemly — at least it used to feel that way to me.

Although I'd heard the concept before, a talk Carla Harris gave at Google in 2022 made an impression on me and brought it to the forefront. (She has a 2019 TED Talk that hits a lot of the same points). She spoke about the value of sponsorship, both on the receiving end early in her career and now as a sponsor herself. More than just her description, what I most appreciated was her candor. It gave me a permission structure to use this concept myself. I started using it with junior engineers when thinking about their careers; I thought about it myself when debugging how some decision played out. It also helped me to think of it less judgmentally. Now I see it as being thoughtful and pragmatic about how decisions are made.

So what it it? Sponsoring is similar to mentoring in that it's an investment in someone, but the mechanism is different. Mentoring is a commitment to problem-solve issues as they come up, teach skills, and serve as a sounding board, amongst other things. Sponsoring is more strategic. The sponsor is committing to understand the sponsored's goals and strengths, and (here's the important part) help them get ahead. The time commitment isn't as large, but the actual commitment is greater. Assuming they see eye-to-eye, the sponsor commits to putting their reputation on the line to help the their person achieve their goals. Some examples would be vouching for the sponsored during a staffing conversations or seeking out and advocating for them when opportunities comes up.

In some ways, sponsorship acknowledges and even co-opts the "you have to know somebody" way that the world actually works. Underrepresented groups can benefit from sponsorship as a way to wedge into existing power structures. If that describes you, consider asking for someone to explicitly sponsor you; if you're in a traditionally privileged group, consider sponsoring someone who isn't so much. My Google peer Rachel observed: "women are often over-mentored and under-sponsored."

Maybe You're Going Up For Promotion

With this in mind, let's apply this to promotions.

Try as we might to bring rigor and de-bias these decisions, they are complicated and are made by real-world humans. Organizations rely on their senior people to bring their experience, knowledge, and judgment to bear.

Consider how the promotion decision will be made for your case. One key question is who'll be in the room? This isn't just who is invited and who will attend, but more who will be influential in the discussion and decision making process, and for what kinds of questions. Not everyone has an equal voice.

Say you're an engineer going up for promotion to senior engineer. Then likely a senior tech lead (not necessarily your tech lead!) will be asked to speak to the quality of your work (e.g. good code, considered alternatives, future-proofing). A senior manager will likely be asked to assess how well you worked with others and made good decisions. And these are just two of the factors — there will be many others depending on your role and level. You need to work down the rubric and think through who'll be asked to attest to each area as it comes up. Who will be asked to speak to concerns when they're raised ("was that really that hard?")?

Sometimes you might know who the key person will be, but often you won't. Enlist your manager or other senior leaders to think it through with you. Game plan the decision out.

And then assess their level of support. This may be something you can do yourself (if you have a relationship already) or maybe you'll need your manager's help. But somehow you need to ask them, as candidly as you can, "If asked about X, what will you say?" It can sometimes be hard to get an honest answer, so you may need to push a little. Reassure them you'd much rather know now if you have their support or not and you're not going to hold it against them.

If you don't have their support yet, that's OK. Think about work you can do to change that over time.

Day-To-Day Decisions

Not all decisions are as high-stakes as promotions. Leaders make decisions all the time, like whom to trust to lead a project or run a meeting. I like to think about these small-but-important decisions too in the context of sponsorship. Is your manager your sponsor? What about your TL?

Thanks to Josh Loftus, Maren Stever, Jane Manning, and Rachel Grey for their reviews.

So you're looking for a mentor, that's great! I've benefitted a lot from mentors in my career. It'll be a valuable experience for both you and your mentor. This post has my tips for finding a good mentor, asking them, and maintaining a good ongoing relationship.

Choosing

These are my three go-to rules for finding a mentor. They've held up across many companies and years.

1. Your mentor should be someone you admire. The best choice is usually someone the same career path as you, but further along by some years. They don't have to be so much more senior, it could just be the next step, but they've shown that they're willing and able to take on more responsibility and how to do it at your company. Ideally they're someone interesting, inspirational, and relateable.

Another type of mentoring relationship is when you're looking to make a change — say from Engineer to Engineering Manager, or Engineering Manager to Product Manager. Then you're looking for someone who made the switch. I find they're often the most eager to talk about how and why they did it.

2. Organizationally close-by is OK, but they shouldn't be one of your leaders. I've gotten the most out of mentors outside my chain of command. That way, I never had to worry about choosing my words (or topics) carefully. I could problem solve or just vent. Sometimes the person you need to discuss is your own boss.

3. Rapport is super important. Maybe the most important thing of all. Your meetings can't feel like a chore for either of you. Even if you've gotten along fine in the past, maybe you'll hit it off in this new relationship, maybe now.

How can you find the right person if it's not obvious who to ask? Use your network, talk to people, ask for referrals. Big companies often have mentoring programs for matchmaking.

Asking

While your mentor will benefit a bit, you'll be the one getting the most out of this deal. So it's up to you to ask. Understand that they're likely busy, so say how much you'd appreciate some of their time. Make sure they know it's OK to say no.

I recommend asking for a trial run to start with: "Let's do three or four meetings and then re-evaluate." That way you can make sure that it's clicking, see the "rapport" criteria above. If it's not feeling great on both sides then it's best to try again with someone else, no harm no foul.

Being A Good Mentee

So you've found someone, great. Here's some things you should do during probation and onward.

1. Respect their time. Be prompt. Work around their schedule and in a way that works best for them (30 min? over a meal?).

2. Come prepared with a topic or two, keep a backlog. It can be something specific, like problem solving a particular situation or relationship. Or it could be getting just-in-time feedback on a draft email or document. Or it could be open-ended, e.g. "if you could advise your former self 10 years ago, what would you have said?"

3. Check in from time to time. Make sure this is still working out for them: the style of meeting, duration, etc.

4. Find an appropriate way to thank them. Nothing big but it's important to show that you appreciate their time. For example at my current employer (Google) we have a system to give shout-outs to peers that come up at performance review time.

Finally, find a way to pay it forward. Introduce mentors and mentees; volunteer in your company's matchmaking service; find people who appear to stranded and offer to help them out. Sending this post might be a fine icebreaker.

I was so disappointed in Oppenheimer. It wasn't terrible, but what a missed opportunity.

Mystifying. Part of the job of a biopic is to give you insight into what a person is thinking and feeling. Especially for this movie, which is basically about this question: what would it be like to be the person who made these terrible weapons? I understand he's complicated, and it's complicated. But instead of dialog, or even some outright explaining, this movie leans on of Cillian Murphy staring into the distance or adjusting his hat.

Women. There were plenty of interesting women they could have brought in, either contemporaries, or from academia, or the Manhattan project itself. There are only two women in the movie: one is a sex object with mental health issues (Pugh); the other is a mother/lush with a surprisingly sharp wit, but only for a minute (Blunt). The sex scene, oddly using Oppenheimer's most famous line, was gratuitous and super weird.

Strauss. I'm not invested at all in the conflict with Admiral Strauss. Paraphrasing the good folks at The Incomparable, "I don't care if some guy becomes Commerce Secretary in the Eisenhower Cabinet."

Given how much I like the history and the science of this period, I was really pulling for this movie. Dang.

I did a data cleanup over the weekend. I doubt this is interesting for anyone else, I just wanted to capture my own notes.

Our family photos are stored up in Google Photos. We have about 100k photos and short movies that take up 0.5TB. I wanted to back up to local storage, but also I liked the idea of trying the mdisc format for long-term storage.

I ran Takeout and unzipped everything. I was surprised to see so many duplicates. Some are copies in the same folders with suffixes like "(1)", most are multiple copies in different folders. Takeout seems to just store a copy for each album a photo is in.

Some poking at the data shows 88% of 302,755 files / 72% of the bytes were unique (histogram at the bottom of the post). Removing dups can save 200+GB. Sure not really worth the trouble but why not.

Steps

1. On the NAS, gather file checksums (md5sum) and sizes for all the files under Takeout/Google Files. Mostly variations on of find -print0 | xargs -0.

2. Data cleanup to get into nice file paths and clean delimiters, mostly interactively with vi.

3. Insert into sqlite using .separator and .import.

Here's what the database ended up looking like: Photos and Sizes are inputs, HashCounts, Duplicates, and Candidates are outputs.

CREATE TABLE Photos(hash TEXT,path TEXT);
CREATE TABLE Sizes(size INT,path TEXT);
CREATE TABLE HashCounts(hash TEXT,found INT);
CREATE TABLE Duplicates(path STRING,hash STRING,found INT,size INT);
CREATE TABLE Candidates(path STRING,hash STRING,size INT,pos INT);

4. Find the dups. I'm surprised to find some with 50 or more copies, but it out some family favorites end up in lots of albums.

insert into HashCounts
select hash, sum(1) as found from Photos group by hash;

5. Figure out candidates for deletion

insert into Duplicates
select Photos.path, Photos.hash, HashCounts.found, Sizes.size
from Photos, HashCounts, Sizes
where HashCounts.hash=Photos.hash and Photos.path=Sizes.path
and HashCounts.found > 1;

The first of each set is the one we'll keep.

insert into Candidates
select *
from (select path, hash, size, row_number() over (partition by hash) as row_number
    from (select * from Duplicates order by hash, path desc)
) where row_number > 1;

I was surprised that sqlplus supports window functions, nice.

The inner reverse-alpha sort on "path" takes care of two cases. I tend to prefer keeping photos with names that start with years, and Those come first alphabetically (nice). Also within folders often there are many copies with "(1)" and "(2)" suffixes that are generally cruft and most worthy of removing, and those also sort last alphabetically (nice).

5. Dump out the "Candidates" using .output. Copy back to the NAS. Do lots of spot checks. Convert to a bash script of rm commands, run very carefully.

Tools

Sqlite is my go-to tool for ad-hoc work like this. It's fast and simple, but only for small jobs -- this one is MB-scale.

select name, sum(pgsize) from dbstat group by name;
name           sum(pgsize)
-------------  -----------
Candidates     3006464
Duplicates     5541888
HashCounts     11051008
Photos         23240704
Sizes          13807616
sqlite_schema  4096

My Synology is a pretty good place for storage with ability to ssh in and run local commands. But if I had to do this again, though, I should have just bought a large locally-connected SSD. All the transfers to-from the NAS were a hassle. Looking now I'm stunned that you can get a 4 TB external SSD for under $300.

Some private notes here.

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I listen to a fair number of podcasts. The Accidental Tech Podcast is my favorite by a mile.

It's the one that I look forward to every week. It comes out on Thursdays, often right when I'm leaving work. It's a sign that the weekend is right around the corner.

I'll get some of the reasons why out of the way quickly, the reasons particular to me and my tastes.

• The topic, the world of technology and all things around it, is right in my wheelhouse. It's my profession, but also my hobby. That's what got me in the door. If this stuff isn't your thing, then this podcast won't be either.
• They talk a lot about Apple products and that ecosystem, which where I spend my personal time.
• But they also cover a lot of issues that touch on the world of technology: business, law & politics, companies, social media. I like their descriptions, their take, their rants.
• They end up talking a lot about personal tech too. Like how to manage family photos and backups. The hard, fussy stuff that ends up taking up so much of our lives. For example, what's the best way to help parents deal with passwords. Hard stuff!
• I especially like tech-adjacent topics like home audio/video, home automation, and gaming.

But what I appreciate more than the content of ATP are the hosts and the care they take to produce a good show.

• They are friends. It's nice hanging out with people who like each other. It's kind of like we have permission to eavesdrop and be a part of that.
• They're not afraid to discuss their lives. Stuff like families and work/life stress. This is good stuff for me because I'm in the same life situation as them: middle-aged tech dads. But bringing their whole selves to the show is a bit of vulnerability that I appreciate.
• ATP is exceptionally well produced. I didn't appreciate this until I'd heard so many other podcasts that are produced terribly, with bad recordings or poorly mixed. Usually you have to turn to the corporate, fancy podcasts, but they also have lots of ads and are usually different kinds of shows.
• And the show is so well edited. They edit it without losing any of the content or the pacing, and sparing us all the awkward "um where were we" and technical futzing.
• They don't talk over each other. Part of this is discipline, part of this is just politeness. But also now that I've listened to the pre-edit "bootleg" a couple of times, I've come to appreciate how much of this is also fixed in the edit. Nice job Marco.
• They are respectful. They don't put people down, they aren't mean. When they kid each other it's in good fun.
• When (rarely) they wade into social justice or world events, they do so respectfully and thoughtfully. They understand that as three three cisgender white guys, it's good to have views to share, but also right to listen and help others.
• Their show is reliable. It's great that they keep to a regular format and schedule. It fits into the rest of your life and becomes something you count on.
• Finally, some small things: Yay for proper use of chapter markers, hardly anybody else uses them properly. And I like their their occasional forays into car talk, just because I like car stuff too.

Although they joke about how much of the show is devoted to feedback, it's one of my favorite parts. It shows that they listen and are learning. And they share that learning with all of us. A recent example was six minutes or so into Episode 570 when I learned how home power battery systems, when full, signal this by changing the frequency of AC power as a signal to solar panels to back off. Fascinating!

I like the members-only specials. It's OK with me that these are only available to members. They've been candid lately about ad revenue drying up and they could use the extra revenue channel. These episodes are a nice way to reward members. They've managed to do these without compromising the core show.

The best thing they ever did on ATP was getting a sponsor to send John toasters to review. And review he did! I didn't appreciate how many bad toasters there are, and how they can be bad for so many reasons. My favorite reason was poor knob feel.

Nice work John, Marco, and Casey. Please keep it up for a long, long time.

If you've traveled internationally, likely you've used a SIM card for local data and calls. There is a nice ecosystem around SIMs with a wealth of easy and affordable Pay As You Go (PAYG) options.

But the newer iPhones did away with the SIM slot if favor of some new eSIM hotness. Apple has all kinds of info claiming they have good international support, but I found reality falls short.

• Only a few carriers support eSIM's,
• The few that do require a contract. A tourist or student studying abroad is better served by a PAYG plan, and
• Even if you can stomach a contract, that would require a UK bank account; no way to easily pull that off.

We ended up falling back to international roaming. It works but is expensive.

I think Apple made the wrong call removing the trusty old SIM tray. Clearly the new models can be made to work well with it, since how they are sold in the UK. If you're unlucky enough to have bought your recent iPhone in the US, you're out of luck.

I this is an example of Apple bad tendency sometimes choose form over function, "courage" over usability.

I just finished the Big Dig podcast and it's worth a listen. It's about Boston's Central Artery/Tunnel Project, the most expensive highway project in US history. They cover the whole story, from conception, to getting it approved, to years of execution, and then the fallout from cost overruns and mismanagement. The podcast is well produced and has a lot of primary-source interviews.

I have a little bit of a personal connection, since I lived in Boston during the project's later years when it was on the news all the time. I even toured a part under construction.

But what I find most compelling is trying to connect to the question, can America build big infrastructure anymore? It's something I think lot about. We benefit from by the giant projects from the past (dams, bridges, interstates) but can't maintain them properly; we struggle to take on new things like high-speed rail.

They place most of the blame on headwinds that didn't exist in the public-works heyday of the twentieth century. Leaders are under more scrutiny; projects fall under a bunch of regulations intended to protect the environment and workers. Public commentary slows things down.

The problem is, while the old way was easier, it also caused a lot of harm. I learned the story of the Cambridge and East Boston families that stopped interstate projects that would have leveled their homes and neighborhoods. I know those places well. I used to own a home right where one of those roads was supposed to have been. I sure am grateful to those protesters who won!

It ends on a hopeful note. Not that it's easy, nor are we necessarily that much better managing big projects now. But there are success stories.

One part I especially liked was 20 minutes into the final episode, in the final interview with Fred Salvucci, where he told the story Saint Francis. God tells Francis to build a cathedral, but then tears it down. Francis builds another, God destroys it again. Why, Francis asks. Because it's not enough to build a physical cathedral, but you also have to build the support for it in the hearts and minds of the people. Maybe that's the part we're not doing well enough now.

Some bosses want you to bring them problems. They like to unscramble Rubik's cubes and are happy to work through it with you. Sure it's great if you have a proposal or recommendation, but be prepared to show your homework.

Other bosses want you to bring them solutions. If you bring them a problem, you'll get annoyance and "what do you want me to do about it?"

Most bosses have exceptions by domain. A common pattern there is the bring-me-problems boss who is also a techie -- they'll want to dig in planning, say, but prefer you to solve messy people conflicts yourself.

I've worked with both and each has their virtues. When you have a new boss, figure out their style and adjust.